Yes… sounds weird I know but there’s a method to my madness and it is this…

Your approach anxiety and nervousness will most likely come from a fear of either:
1) Not knowing how to start the conversation
2) Not knowing what to say
3) Not knowing how to escalate and brew attraction

There’s a lot to discuss about these three things but hopefully, in short, I can help you here.

Firstly, use a direct opener – this simply is “I know this is a little weird but I saw you from over there and I thought you were really attractive so I wanted to come say hi” (for example). Make sure you open girls you genuinely think are attractive otherwise it will come off as insincere.

Do this THREE TIMES with the AIM OF GETTING REJECTED. Whether this means you be rude, go silent on purpose or do whatever you need to do to get rejected in the beginning. There are many reasons why this is important but the most important is that your fears will very quickly subside once you’re exposed to the thing you are fearful of. Your nervousness comes from a fear of rejection and once you welcome that rejection and experience it you will instantly feel it dissipate as you will have been exposed to it and you’ll realise that it really isn’t that bad. No one ever says ‘fuck off you loser’, most people just say ‘thanks for the chat’ and walk away.

It will help you develop a thick skin to rejection and it is the fastest and most effective (and simple) way to instantly reducing your approach anxiety down to nothing. The only trick is that you will need to do these three approaches/rejections in quick succession and on and with people you don’t know (cold approaches). You need to hit your system hard by facing your fear and through a quick bout of exposure you will get over it quickly.

I would suggest trying to pick up women at places where you are comfortable at first,if you struggle with normal areas,cause you tend to be more at home and calm if you know where you are,and whose around.

Had a question for you. Have you met many women PUAs? If so what’s your opinion on them? I don’t meant to scare anyone on here but I’m a girl and I’m actually pretty interested considering there’s not much out that really teaches people how to have confidence and how to build an attraction. As you already know, a lot of guys are actually are pretty insecure and don’t know how to talk to women. This actually makes the dating scene boring for girls who actually want to have fun and be challenged, but the question is, do guys want women to approach them? Or would they rather be the hunters themselves?

Truly, I thought your video on how to kiss a girl within the first 10 minutes was great and I actually sent it to one of my guy friends who is a PUA and has also taught me a few tricks. A lot of what you guys post, can work on guys too which is totally kick-ass for girls like me. Just out of curiosity, but have you or anyone else ever considered doing a course for women to make the game more entertaining?