| How to Approach Women |
How to Approach WomenIf your after the knowledge of just how to approach women then read on. Today I’m inviting you to come with me to a world where women are trying to keep you there talking to them. You’re going to learn the simple right and wrong ways of how to approach women and have a few timeless principles to help you be the king of any room. Learning how to approach women is not easy at first but read on and I will show you just how. The IssueWhen approaching a women you do not want to be “just another guy” who is either: - Coming on too heavy and insincere or Women are inundated with both these kinds of guys. They hate these guys, they waste their time and breed awkwardness and tension. Most of all they’re just like everyone else. They’re not special, they’re not sweeping her off her feet and worst of all once they’re even suspected of being one of these guys a woman’s defences go up and most of what you say will not emotionally stimulate her. In short, your manhood will have a lot more time to enjoy sitting there unused in your pants. Worst of all, these guys are slow and misdirected. They’re jumping in and seeing if they’ll instantly develop swimming skills. The chances are they will run into a strong tide quickly and end up sinking. You’re going to learn how to approach women so that you’ll be jumping into a conversation fully equipped. You’ll be the submarine not the castaway who fell overboard. The HowThere are a variety of ways of how to approach women. All work but some simply because you’re just approaching her to begin with and you’re going to pickup more talking badly to women than not talking at all. You need to be “counter intutitive”. This is one of the four overarching principles of our online and offline courses on how to approach women fast.
Take them by surpriseThis is the dating adaptation of Sun Tzu’s ‘Art of War’ principles. If you catch them unaware and unprepared you have the advantage. They have no time to put up their defences. This is why I like day-time pickups – women don’t expect to be approached unlike when they’re in the club. Additionally I reap 5 numbers on average a day during the 15 minutes I put aside on my 60 minute lunch break. I do this twice a week and I have two dates a night. You can learn to get a woman’s number in a minute and do this today on our site for free but it’s not so important here. I’m just bragging to entice you to keep reading. The Application1) Shock them by what you say: The way I do this is by “going direct”. Women want a man who takes charge but continues to be gentleman. You’re not there to be friends but you’re not there to be sleazy. So, muster up some humility, touch them on the arm to get their attention and kick start the physical escalation and tell them in a casual but “confident” way that you’re there because you think she’s cute / funky / captivating. She’s not hot / stunning / smoking. That’s too heavy. You need to come across as the guy who doesn’t do this to every woman. She’s special and special enough for you to actually take the time to go approach her – something she needs to see as a rarity. The point is, if your woman doesn’t see you stalking her out and approaching her and then gets a rare and sincere compliment she wont even have time to think about being defensive. She will be caught off guard, have no defenses and already be guided into being “swept off her feet”. You hold the broom and you sweep her where you want to her go. The compliment and opener is enough to do this.
2) Attack A with a view to capturing B. This is another of Sun Tzu’s principles. You distract her with a ‘situational opener’ and then you apply step 1. This is basically an extra step you can add to step 1 if you’re too nervous to do step 1 or if the situation would see step 1 being too blatant and inappropriate e.g. at a business meeting.
You will distract their defenses with small talk, soften them up a bit and then attack them where it’s needed – the seduction front. In practical terms this means the once your small talk convinces them you’re not a sleaze or a shy guy having a shot it simply makes her know you’re safe and normal and not some psycho who runs out proclaiming his love for her. Instead you’re building rapport and heating the oven before you put the turkey in. Either way the turkey will still get cooked but you may get a better result doing it this way. The problem is, is that it is perceived by the woman as being the exact opposite of being “counter intuitive”. It is what most average shy guys do. They TRY to create conversation from an often lame starting point that is obviously just a cover for trying to talk to her. This is the problem with “opinion openers” – which is basically asking a woman a question in an attempt to have it be the seed that grows into a decent conversation. The problem is it works only 40% of the time as it is way to obvious. Your opening comment is to be used for women who are too shy to be able to take a compliment early on or a woman who is so hot that she hears blatant come-ons all day. It’s less direct but can distract them with sincerity. Here’s how: - The comment needs to be playful, this means there can be a bit of flirty teasing in it. For example: You’re in a supermarket and there’s a woman finding it hard to figure out which cheese to take. Now her taking a long time and you commenting on that shows you’re perceptive which shows consideration and sincerity. You’ve realized she’s taking a while to choose – comment on that.
You : “Now either you’re a real cheese connoisseur and choosing the right Brie is a hard decision to make or you know nothing about cheese” (situational opener) Her: “You’re right it’s just so hard, I like cheese, I’m no professional but I just want to try something new” You: “Well by the time you make up your mind you may as well go home and just slice up the congealed milk you have sitting in the fridge for the past week and use that instead” (teasing shows you’re confident enough to flirt with losing her, this shows you’re not a sleaze and not a shy guy battling at small talk) Her: “Well Mr. Expert what would you suggest?” You: “I’d suggest something inappropriate like accompanying me to my favorite cheese shop a few doors down because the cheese excuse will run out soon and I think that I will kick myself if I don’t get to find out more about you” (step 1 + social norms). Additionally it’s the best thing you can do for rapport. It’s the foundation for connecting with anyone but that’s another issue for another time. When it comes to knowing how to approach women this is of the most stress free ways to be charming, quell your nerves and most of all put your real-self out there in the best possible light. The best part? This takes about 10 seconds to approach a woman properly and we have videos to prove just how to approach women on www.seduceinseconds.com.
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