If picking up women is TRUELY simply then you should be able to do it quickly. If you can do it quickly you can then use it over and over in a short period of time to seduce the masses.
If your after the knowledge of just how to approach women then read on. Today I’m inviting you to come with me to a world where women are trying to keep you there talking to them.
You’re going to learn the simple right and wrong ways of how to approach women and have a few timeless principles to help you be the king of any room. Learning how to approach women is not easy at first but read on and I will show you just how.
The Problem
You don’t want to be the guy who make them feel awkward or comes on too hard.
Women are inundated with both these kinds of guys. They hate these guys, they waste their time and breed awkwardness and tension. Most of all they’re just like everyone else.
They’re not special, they’re not sweeping her off her feet and worst of all once they’re even suspected of being one of these guys a woman’s defences go up and most of what you say will not emotionally stimulate her. In short, your manhood will have a lot more time to enjoy sitting there unused in your pants.
Worst of all, these guys are slow and misdirected. They’re jumping in and seeing if they’ll instantly develop swimming skills. The chances are they will run into a strong tide quickly and end up sinking.
You’re going to learn how to approach women so that you’ll be jumping into a conversation fully equipped. You’ll be the submarine not the castaway who fell overboard.
The How
There are a variety of ways of how to approach women. All work but some simply because you’re just approaching her to begin with and you’re going to pickup more talking badly to women than not talking at all.
This is effort. This wastes time. This is embarrassing.
You need to be “counter intutitive”. This is one of the four overarching principles of our online and offline courses on how to approach women fast.
Take them by surprise
This is the dating adaptation of Sun Tzu’s ‘Art of War’ principles. If you catch them unaware and unprepared you have the advantage. They have no time to put up their defences.
This is why I like day-time pickups – women don’t expect to be approached unlike when they’re in the club. Additionally I reap 5 numbers on average a day during the 15 minutes I put aside on my 60 minute lunch break. I do this twice a week and I have two dates a night.
You can learn to get a woman’s number in a minute and do this today on our site for free but it’s not so important here. I’m just bragging to entice you to keep reading.
The Solution
1) Shock them by what you say:
The way I do this is by “going direct”. Women want a man who takes charge but continues to be gentleman. You’re not there to be friends but you’re not there to be sleazy. So, muster up some humility, touch them on the arm to get their attention and kick start the physical escalation and tell them in a casual but “confident” way that you’re there because you think she’s cute / funky / captivating.
She’s not hot / stunning / smoking. That’s too heavy. You need to come across as the guy who doesn’t do this to every woman. She’s special and special enough for you to actually take the time to go approach her – something she needs to see as a rarity.
The point is, if your woman doesn’t see you stalking her out and approaching her and then gets a rare and sincere compliment she wont even have time to think about being defensive.
She will be caught off guard, have no defenses and already be guided into being “swept off her feet”. You hold the broom and you sweep her where you want to her go. The compliment and opener is enough to do this.
2) Attack A with a view to capturing B.
This is another of Sun Tzu’s principles. You distract her with a ‘situational opener’ and then you apply step 1. This is basically an extra step you can add to step 1 if you’re too nervous to do step 1 or if the situation would see step 1 being too blatant and inappropriate e.g. at a business meeting.
You will distract their defenses with small talk, soften them up a bit and then attack them where it’s needed – the seduction front. In practical terms this means the once your small talk convinces them you’re not a sleaze or a shy guy having a shot it simply makes her know you’re safe and normal and not some psycho who runs out proclaiming his love for her.
Instead you’re building rapport and heating the oven before you put the turkey in. Either way the turkey will still get cooked but you may get a better result doing it this way.
The problem is, is that it is perceived by the woman as being the exact opposite of being “counter intuitive”. It is what most average shy guys do. They TRY to create conversation from an often lame starting point that is obviously just a cover for trying to talk to her.
This is the problem with “opinion openers” – which is basically asking a woman a question in an attempt to have it be the seed that grows into a decent conversation. The problem is it works only 40% of the time as it is way to obvious.
Your opening comment is to be used for women who are too shy to be able to take a compliment early on or a woman who is so hot that she hears blatant come-ons all day. It’s less direct but can distract them with sincerity.
Here’s how:
- The comment needs to be playful, this means there can be a bit of flirty teasing in it.
- It needs to apply to what they’re doing and the context they’re in.
For example:
You’re in a supermarket and there’s a woman finding it hard to figure out which cheese to take. Now her taking a long time and you commenting on that shows you’re perceptive which shows consideration and sincerity. You’ve realized she’s taking a while to choose – comment on that.
You : “Now either you’re a real cheese connoisseur and choosing the right Brie is a hard decision to make or you know nothing about cheese” (situational opener)
Her: “You’re right it’s just so hard, I like cheese, I’m no professional but I just want to try something new”
You: “Well by the time you make up your mind you may as well go home and just slice up the congealed milk you have sitting in the fridge for the past week and use that instead” (teasing shows you’re confident enough to flirt with losing her, this shows you’re not a sleaze and not a shy guy battling at small talk)
Her: “Well Mr. Expert what would you suggest?”
You: “I’d suggest something inappropriate like accompanying me to my favorite cheese shop a few doors down because the cheese excuse will run out soon and I think that I will kick myself if I don’t get to find out more about you” (step 1 + social norms).
“Social Norms”
It is a technique explained inside our course and is based on stating the obvious to remove social awkwardness. If you put it out there what’s on her mind and state the cliché then you remove the sleaze risk.
Why? Because you communicate to her that you’re aware of what is sleazy and what isn’t.
Additionally it’s the best thing you can do for rapport. It’s the foundation for connecting with anyone but that’s another issue for another time. When it comes to knowing how to approach women this is of the most stress free ways to be charming, quell your nerves and most of all put your real-self out there in the best possible light.
The best part? This takes about 10 seconds to approach a woman properly and we have videos to prove just how to approach women in our Videos Section.
I have to these openers are really good and do work the best. They’re good for an opening approach and getting the number, but really where do you go from there? The woman doesn’t know you or trust you enough from here to want to date you. How do you take it after a quick approach?
Excellent article, I am a big fan of your website, keep on posting that great content, and I’ll be a regular visitor for a long time.
Do you plan to keep this site updated? I sure hope so… its great!
Awesome post, hey I came across this post while searching the web for random downloads. Thanks for sharing I’ll email my friends about this too.
Oh thank you that’s really nice of you.
Very cool, I’ll have more stuff for you here ASAP.
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Thanks for the props! You just made my day!
What do you say after you open? I cover it inside my online course but in short you can’t let them respond to your opener as it risks an awkward silence. Gambits, teases, and about 1000 other things can all be done after you open to make sure your conversation gets momentum. I think Lessons 5-7 cover alot of that for memory, perhaps its a little earlier.
this one is nice. way better than those stupid and wierd “wad up dog” from David D,
and g@y openings like “what movies is this from … ‘blah blah blah’ crap” from Mystery. And better than sneaky openers like “my fd over there’s abt to get drunk becoz he has had alot of drinks already, why dont we go help him out” from Gambler…. thx
Looking forward to see more examples like the cheese opening.
btw. all ur pics on this site are dead links.
I’ve already been attempting to repair items just about all week but to no avail, I most certainly will try out the following pointers and let you know if good
Hey this is a great post. I’m going to email this to my friends. I stumbled on this while googling for some rock lyrics, I’ll be sure to visit regularly. thanks for sharing.
fixed thanks so much for letting me know
HEY, HOW ABOUT GOING FOR 9S AND 10NS LIKE YOU ALWAYS HIT ON 8S SINCERELY
Some girls are hotter than others but where I come from, our taste dictates that our women don’t dress like cheap whores (thank you European immigrants).
T,
Had a question for you. Have you met many women PUAs? If so what’s your opinion on them? I don’t meant to scare anyone on here but I’m a girl and I’m actually pretty interested considering there’s not much out that really teaches people how to have confidence and how to build an attraction. As you already know, a lot of guys are actually are pretty insecure and don’t know how to talk to women. This actually makes the dating scene boring for girls who actually want to have fun and be challenged, but the question is, do guys want women to approach them? Or would they rather be the hunters themselves?
Truly, I thought your video on how to kiss a girl within the first 10 minutes was great and I actually sent it to one of my guy friends who is a PUA and has also taught me a few tricks. A lot of what you guys post, can work on guys too which is totally kick-ass for girls like me. Just out of curiosity, but have you or anyone else ever considered doing a course for women to make the game more entertaining?
Hello T I’m 16 and I want to approach a girl who’s 18 what are some ways to approach older women? or does it even matter?
I believe one of the best ways to convert an opener, and I’m not expert by any means, but I’ve always either asked her whats on the agenda today,or I comment on our surroundings(if were in a bookstore,ask her what kind of books shes into,a grocery store,ask her should I go for the artificial orange juice,or the 100% authentic,or if we’re in the DMV,ask her how many tickets does she need to pay off….)have fun fellas,its really not complicated.
I would suggest trying to pick up women at places where you are comfortable at first,if you struggle with normal areas,cause you tend to be more at home and calm if you know where you are,and whose around.
hahah… i used alot of your push/pull techniques and playful attitude towards openers forever without even realizing it
T,
Ive lways been nervous around girls, i just came across your videos today and i am going to try some of the tips and tricks that you taught me in these videos. But before i go out and try them out i would like to know if you have any last minute advice that you think might help.
My last minute advice is to go out and make your first three approaches targetted to actually getting rejected.
Yes… sounds weird I know but there’s a method to my madness and it is this…
Your approach anxiety and nervousness will most likely come from a fear of either:
1) Not knowing how to start the conversation
2) Not knowing what to say
3) Not knowing how to escalate and brew attraction
There’s a lot to discuss about these three things but hopefully, in short, I can help you here.
Firstly, use a direct opener – this simply is “I know this is a little weird but I saw you from over there and I thought you were really attractive so I wanted to come say hi” (for example). Make sure you open girls you genuinely think are attractive otherwise it will come off as insincere.
Do this THREE TIMES with the AIM OF GETTING REJECTED. Whether this means you be rude, go silent on purpose or do whatever you need to do to get rejected in the beginning. There are many reasons why this is important but the most important is that your fears will very quickly subside once you’re exposed to the thing you are fearful of. Your nervousness comes from a fear of rejection and once you welcome that rejection and experience it you will instantly feel it dissipate as you will have been exposed to it and you’ll realise that it really isn’t that bad. No one ever says ‘fuck off you loser’, most people just say ‘thanks for the chat’ and walk away.
It will help you develop a thick skin to rejection and it is the fastest and most effective (and simple) way to instantly reducing your approach anxiety down to nothing. The only trick is that you will need to do these three approaches/rejections in quick succession and on and with people you don’t know (cold approaches). You need to hit your system hard by facing your fear and through a quick bout of exposure you will get over it quickly.