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This blog is written by T, the founder of Seduce In Seconds, and is a place where simplicity and speed with women is turned into practical strategies for you to become more attractive.
Bio:
T’s real name is Jonathan S. He left working as a freelance instructor for some of the larger dating coaches in the US, UK and Australasia. Founded Seduce In Seconds in 2005 to pursue simplicity, speed and laziness in formulating ways to pick up girls.
Born in Australia, T is a trained lawyer and later completed a business degree to consult businesses on strategy and change. He was pick up artist by night and has worked for over 5 seduction companies including his own teaching his 4 core principles and how to apply them to any situation without thinking too hard.
Beliefs:
He believes that simple problems cannot have complicated solutions and that everything to be taught must be tested and filmed vigorously. Currently Seduce In Seconds has done over 19,000 approaches testing these methods. They have been tested with over 10,000 guys and has been filmed in over 20 countries with a wide variety of women.
The 4 Principles:
Since 2005 he believes his 4 core principles cannot be used in steps or as methods. They are simply 4 things to use in addition to your personality when you feel yo
u need them. He has over 400 techniques inside his online course but insists they are only shortcuts / examples in how to illustrate how these 4 principles work.
His principles are not a secret (counter intuitiveness, push/pull, indifference and playfulness) and are common in most successful seduction techniques. T believes that these four things are the foundations of all successful social interactions with women, male companions or in the corporate world.
Since Seduce In Second’s formed it has grown to offer online dating courses, in-person boot camps and over 20 instructors world-wide who consistently test and film their speed seduction developments. These have attained over 6 million views in the past 2 years (2m of which on YouTube alone http://www.youtube.com/thesocialengineer).
Quotes:
T on what makes a professional lady’s man
“If you’re not closing women in under 15 minutes you’re not a pick up
artist. A real ‘artist’ in any other profession achieves the
complicated simply and has fun doing it quickly and effortlessly.
I see guys so often who think they’re amazing pick up artists who are
not even close to wiping the floor with a natural alpha male and
that’s unacceptable.”
T on speed and simplicity with women:
” Speed is important. If you can do something fast that can get
results over and over in just minutes then WHY worry about fixing your
inner game, getting all spiritual or simply trying not be affected by
external validation?
Why not become confident the easy way via
understanding the human condition and how you are.
If your Mum dies, if you loose your job or if your new girlfriend
rejects you it is normal you feel sad.
You’re human. It’s easier to use
that to your advantage than trying to change our humanity. Want to
confident? Simply understand you will feel good when you get a kiss in
under 12 minutes, a 1 minute number close or an instant date.
True confidence comes from knowing you’re good with women in REALITY,
not just at a computer or in your own mind. The only way to achieve
this is by actually getting results in front of your own eyes and the
only way you can do that is by understanding this and approaching.”
T on men’s biggest issue learning how to pick up women:
“Techniques are not the answers, they are just training wheels or
shortcuts you can use occasionally. The only way to be the ‘natural’
pick up artist is by being able to strategically handle any woman in
any situation by barely thinking.
Techniques aren’t conducive to this even though they can make your life easy in the short term. Inner game isn’t conducive to this either because most inner game packages turn you away from external validation instead of using it to your
advantage.
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Thanks mate but I’m not a writer and despite my costs I don’t do this for money. I left a very well paying career as a lawyer to be a full time dating coach / self help guru / helpful bloke (whatever you want to call it). Cheers for the suggestion and compliment though but I get paid already writing this stuff because people want to learn the specifics of how to do this stuff perfectly in all situations and join my online course.
I also have had bad experiences with posting on sites other than my own because some of my competitors may own the sites and they edit my stuff to make me look like a fake. So right now I like to keep it where I can moderate it myself and make sure it reaches you, the reader, as I intend it to without being ‘edited’.
Hi T,
Im having a problem with my recurring payment to your online-course. This has led to that I have been locked out from your bootcamp.Is there any way I could re-start it again, from lesson 27?
Best regards
Yep that shouldn’t be a problem. Just email Amy at admin@seduceinseconds.com.
Thanks for the great insight on that, never really thought about it. bookmarked your site!
Hi T,
The link to the ebay doesn’t work. Anyway of me getting it?
What ebay link?
Is there another link for the bootcamp booklet?
I’m not able to download the link at the top of this page.
Sorry T, ignor the above. It was supposed to read e-book, not ebay. The link is now working, so I put that down to my temporary inability to think above the level of a chimp. Thanks,
David
hey T well performed gotta say you have great skills and really are talented . Just have a quick question i wanna ask you, if English is not my mother tounge language (still i can bearly speak it though) do you believe it will be possible for me to pick up the girls? do you have any technique that would improve my confidence?
Thanks mate,
P.
Is this course for long term relationship goal? or one night stand goal?
because i don’t do bars. Smell cigarette, and I don’t smoke and drinks. Its medical reason.
well ur whole system is for men… i dont appreciate that… not one bit… but i did love that 12 min kiss close that was totally brilliant. why was she so angry? anyway, i want to get a kiss close with a guy. Can you help or do you only have tips for men?
— From Scott Edwards (Comment Moved)
“What a great site and comments. Thanks, T, for sharing so much free info. I’m 40 now, and fairly settled down, but, wow, I wish I’d had this info when I was younger!
You’re doing a great service and the amount of yourself you share in your comments makes me think you are a genuine person and not just out to “make a buck.”
I’d like to hear more about your “life story”, is there an About Me page on this site?
Cheers.”
Hey Scott,
Thanks so much for your comments, I’m happy that my goal of having my works resonate with men (and women too) of all ages is a reality as most people write this off as content only for younger people.
My ‘How it Works’ page doubles as my ‘About Me’ page though in reality there is nothing that I’d be too interested in putting in there as my past is really not too interesting (the present, on the other hand…that’s a different story).
I was born in Sydney, Australia and always wanted to be a psychologist however sitting around going in circles and waiting for people to have their own realisations would have been a bit too frustrating for me (and emotionally tough too). I chose not to pursue it as I have a wide range of psychs in my family and in reality, what people discuss and realise about themselves rarely gets translated into reality as they leave the consultation room and often still just do what they always did. For that reason I decided to strive for a more hands on approach that also would allow me to be a bit dictatorial as to what works because in reality, many of us don’t know what is good or what works (me included at times).
I wanted to take people into the realm of practical psychology combined with my own research and experiences teaching and observing what works consistently. I began my business as a hobby whilst I was in business and law school because I was self-conscious about my age and what people will think e.g. “How can a guy with your limited life experience tell US what to do?” to which my response was always “Well, watch this…” and I’d just go and pick up a girl / woman and then come back and say “Now you try, I want to see you do better and explain to my why I’m so ignorant”. After that I realised that most of my older client’s 40+ such as yourself, often have become more closed to certain types of people, interactions and contexts. They became more rigid as life gradually chipped away at them and shaped them into the person they are until they’re so stuck in their ways that they’ve dug themselves so deep that they then need professional advice.
So, they ask their friends….and that doesn’t work for them. Advice is often too subjective and vague: “Just be funny” , “Be yourself” and “Just try to show confidence” all are just too non-specific and impossible to implement.
So, they then ask a psychologist…and that doesn’t work as it can often take YEARS before they have any type of lasting realisation that they ACTUALLY IMPLEMENT once they leave the consultation room. Psychologists are never keen to force their views or their will into patient, they consider it unethical and dangerous as often people they come across are fragile and also, from a personal level, they also realise they too may not know best.
So, they come to their final straw. They’ve tried everything and then the only option is some crazy thing called a ‘dating coach’, some guy who just reckons he’s good with women and has no credentials other than his own ego. They pay and often it works but if it doesn’t work with one of these guys they generally give up persisting and just accept they’re a substandard and inferior person.
All very sad.
I was one of these guys and I hate to boo hoo about my past because most of it happened during my late teens and the beginning of nightclub outings as house parties and small gatherings started to come to a close. It was traumatising walking into a club and feeling like a massive loser because I didn’t know how to start a conversation, I felt (and probably looked very nervous and unsure of myself) and I had no idea what to say or how to impress people. I consistently felt needy and eventually I just wanted a girlfriend so badly (not many women) just to avoid the trials and tribulations of the dating world and its harsh realities. I can only describe it as a feeling deep in my chest and stomach which was like a really bad ‘want’ feeling. In this instance I wanted women to at least talk to me (even if they wern’t attracted) so at least it could confirm to me even a little that I wasn’t as inferior and useless as my mind kept telling me I was. All it took was the thought of talking to new people, going to a club or even making eye contact with ANYONE of any age (especially women though) to remind me of what a social failure I am and how inadequate I must be in the looks department.
Luckily….things changed
After years of observing, hypothesising and testing I realised that all the major ladies men I hung with (because by that time I was already active in studying psychology and pick up artistry) had 4 things in common and these became my 4 pillars of seduction (counter intuitiveness, playfulness, push/pull and indifference). The only issue was that there were a 1000 techniques out there (some of which had parts of these things) but they rarely seemed to work consistently and especially for guys who’s delivery is not so good. People seemed to be able to smell I wasn’t sincere and that was even more embaressing. So I pushed forth and kept and formulated more and more techniques but found it impossible to remember and to implement all of them in a social situation when I was nervous and riddled with self-doubt.
Later I realised these were simply examples to make the semi-vague 4 pillars more real-world and understandable by the masses. I started teaching this to guys and posting a few things on forums here and there and basically the results spoke for themselves. My students went on to become some of the worlds better known playboys, gurus and successful businessmen (yes, I used to teach this stuff for business). Next thing I know people are flying in from all over to get me to train them and I had NO idea how they found out about me or believed that I was legitimate at all because what I do, to the ear, sounds quite odd and fantastic…a ‘dating coach’, what the fuck is that? Even I don’t know…
All I know is this:
My life is about reducing my observations, research and experiences (both personal and via my students) into simple and speedy processes that even a 14 year old can implement. I began to become seriously selective about what I kept and what I learnt as too much information (even if it’s all good) can often lead people into a type of information overload and when they’re under pressure they end up remembering only 2-4 things. So, I thought I had better dedicate my life to striving to find the simply and easy solutions and the more simple they are, the quicker you can repeat them and therefore the faster you will get results.
I left my day job as a lawyer and decided to follow my passion and fly around the world teaching my 4 pillars of seduction and sharing my findings and successes/failures with as many people as I possibly can. Some people say you can’t buy confidence but I am now convinced that in fact that’s just not true. People always degrade my job and think it’s a pipe dream or a creation of good marketing but 5 years ago I realised something important. Most of the people who said this were salesman or corporate types all of which have been through some form of interpersonal skill training be it for sales, racial / gender tolerance, negotiating and a million other things and the principles in those things often are very similiar to the principles of seduction, so it really continues to baffle me how they can give credit to those things and not to what I do (particularly because most corporate trainers also do not have degress in psychology…which means little to me personally anyhow as, in my experience, it is rare for me to come across psychs who are even half-normal and / or practice what they preach).
So…that’s my life story. Thanks for asking!
Hi Guys I am watching your video clips and they good. But for me I have no experiences with girls never been on a date, never had a girlfriend. In my 14 years and I am very shy and nerves with girls to talk to them. So what can I do to talk to girls? I go out to the city or shopping center, but never to talk to girls before. I am always shy person. The reason that I need your help is that when I am out somewhere and I see with girlfriends or boyfriends I get very upset inside. So guys hope that you can help me in any way you can.
Thank you
Mark
Hi T,
No bragging but I can get a girl’s phone number 5 times out of 10 in a daygame setting. I know it could be 8 or 9 or 10 but with such a little experience that I have on field I think it’s OK.
Now, my question:
Does your method teach what to do AFTER you have a girl’s number? Because it’s happened to me lots of times that I called a girl a couple of hours or one day after the close and I didn’t get any answer or a refusing one. I think it’s because of the lack of rapport. But what can I do?
Greetings from Hungary! (My name’s Marci)